Sunday, November 15, 2009


Do you ever see those hijabis that are business up top, party on the bottom? You know, they wear hijab but also wear skinny jeans and tight tops? And you ask yourself, "what's the point of wearing hijab if they're gonna be dressed like that?"

Confession time: I'm that hijabi.

My name is Janny and I'm a skinny-jean-aholic. (Doesn't it just roll off the tongue?) Realizing you have a problem is the first step, right?

After high school, I never really let the tight clothes go. The thing is, I don't even want to be dressed like that anymore. I never really had a problem with what I wore. I thought it was acceptable. I realized it wasn't when a friend of mine asked if I would go to the mosque with her. I said no because I couldn't go dressed like that. Then I sat myself down and questioned myself. If I can't go to the mosque dressed like that, should I even be dressed like that?

I feel naked. Aside from covering my skin, I
am naked. I also see the side-eyed looks I get from other woman, secretly shaking their heads. I just give them my best "Woman, please. You don't even know me!" look and try to scare them into looking away.

I do, on rare occasions, wear abayas. And I feel beautiful. I also feel kinda awkward. I don't want to go full on abaya, though.

How 'bout I start wearing looser clothing and work my way up to full time abaya? Deal.


  1. ((HUGS))
    I made a post about it on my hijab fashion blog

    Why not STILL wear your skinny jeans underneath your abaya? It will be your little secret.

    No need to throw out your old wardrobe just buy an abaya or two to cover it. Because ultimately who are you dressing for? for yourself or to impress others? I like feeling sexy without having men gawk at me. My hubs attention is enough.

    by the way another reason why not to throw your clothes out is that when you do get married is nice to dress up for hubs. It is special because he sees you one way and the world sees a covered woman. it is a weird kinda high I can't properly explain.

  2. Yeah, a friend once told me: if you can't pray in it, it's not hijab... But yes, looser clothing and the occasionally abaya sounds like a good plan, stan!

  3. Yeah, I definitely can't pray in skinny jeans. They would split down the middle if I even bent over.

    Tuttie, wearing them under abayas sounds good, but jeans are so uncomfortable. I love wearing abayas because I can actually breathe.

  4. Its really great of you to admit that you should be wearing more modest clothes! I agree.. its the first step, and even if you don't take that next step, at least you won't be fooling yourself into believing that you are dressing 'modestly' by covering your hair!!
    I ask Allah to make it easier for you *hug* I know it wont be easy!!

  5. @Mariam, your comment just made me smile. :)